6-Second Sunday: On failure, fake love, and being busy

6 Ideas. 6 Second Skim. 6 Minute Read.

Happy Sunday!

Here are 6 ideas I’m applying.

You can skim in 6 seconds before deciding.

If you want to spend less than 6 minutes reading the entire post.

Overview

1. Video I’m Watching: Kobe Bryant on Failure 

2. Question I’m Asking: I can’t not drink?

3. Idea I’m Embracing: Love won’t complete you

4. Practice I’m Applying: Creating energy

5. Exercise I’m Learning: The Snatch 

6. Quote I’m Rereading: On being busy

Please enjoy!

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Video I’m Watching: Kobe Bryant on Failure

Failure doesn’t exist. It’s not a hard, concrete thing.

You only fail if you don’t learn from your mistakes and try again tomorrow.

Kobe Bryant:

“The story continues. If you fail on Monday, the only way it’s a failure is if you decide not to progress from that. If I fail today, I’m gonna learn something and try again on Tuesday.”

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Question I’m Asking: I can’t not drink?

I posted this on Substack Notes the other day:

Substack Notes

I drank and partied throughout my entire university career. I was even in a frat… and those guys drank.

After graduating, I quit.

I was tired of hangovers and done with the party scene. I decided the rest of my life would play out better sans alcohol. I’ve been sober for 19 months and have no more temptation to drink than I do to eat dust from the floor.

But I’ve noticed something strange…

When someone finds out I don’t drink, they treat me like an ex-alcoholic who might jump off the wagon. I used to reassure them I didn’t have a drinking problem but then I found myself justifying why I don’t drink.

Now I just go along with it.

Can any other non-drinkers relate? Why is it socially strange to not drink unless you’re an ex-alcoholic?

Let me know your thoughts in the comments or by leaving a reply on my Note.

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Idea I’m Embracing: Love won’t complete you

“After the girl I’d dated had been in Switzerland for a while, and as I continued to see a counselor, I realized that for years I’d thought of love as something that would complete me, make all my troubles go away. I worshipped at the altar of romantic completion. And it had cost me, plenty of times. And it had cost most of the girls I’d dated, too, because I wanted them to be something they couldn’t be. It’s too much pressure to put on a person. 

I think that’s why so many couples fight, because they want their partners to validate them and affirm them, and if they don’t get that, they feel as though they’re going to die. And so they lash out. But it’s a terrible thing to wake up and realize the person you just finished crucifying didn’t turn out to be Jesus.” 

— A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald Miller

Love is one of the biggest lies we’re sold.